Failing at conception? 9 common baby making mistakes

Are you sabotaging your conception goals? Find out below

#1 Mistiming your ovulation

It’s very hard to pinpoint the exact day of ovulation. The textbooks say that women ovulate 14 days after the first day of their period but this doesn’t always happen exactly.

You may notice an increased ‘egg white’ vaginal discharge a few days before you start to ovulate. Most women miss this sign however. An ovulation predictor kit can give you a more accurate answer if you prefer to get scientific about it.

#2 Same position sex

If you’re trying to get pregnant, you’ve probably heard a few gems about how to get pregnant.

“Try keeping your hips elevated after sex”  or “missionary is the best position if you want to get pregnant.”

“When a man ejaculates, sperm swims out, goes directly into the cervical mucus and into the fallopian tubes,” says Serena Chen, M.D., director of the division of reproductive endocrine and infertility at the Institute for Reproductive Medicine and Science at Saint Barnabas Medical Center in Pennsylvania.

No matter the position, this will happen. Have fun, mix things up.

#3 Having sex when you are ovulating

Ovulation predictor kits chart your body temperature to identify when you are ovulating. It seems a good idea to have sex the exact day when you are ovulating but that may be too late.

The egg can be fertilized for up to 24 hours after ovulation and sperm can live for up to 5 days after having sex so having sex even after your ovulation day may increase your chances of getting pregnant.

#4 Not having enough sex

This is one mistake that’s fun to fix. Some couples cut down on sex so as to ‘save sperm’ for that all important conception date but in reality, many days of not having sex can throw off conception. You can easily miss your fertile period by limiting sex to only the days you think you’re ovulating. Have sex as often as you like.

#5 Having too much sex

I know, I know, given the above tip how is this possible? The more sex you have the faster and easier you will conceive right?

Well, more isn’t always better. Frequent sex won’t decrease your man’s sperm potency but it can cause problems. Having sex multiple times can lead to burnout. This may make sex become a pre-ovulatory chore.

#6 Lubricant

Commercial lubricants make it harder for sperm to reach eggs. It may also kill sperm making conception impossible.

Try olive oil or baby oil if you have to use lube, or a sperm friendly lubricant.

#7 Assuming she’s the problem

Most women automatically come to the conclusion that they are infertile when they’ve been trying for a while and nothing happens. 40 percent of fertility issues have to do with the man, and 10 percent are completely inexplicable.

#8 Going to the doctor too early

After a few months of trying, it’s common to rush to the doctor. In reality, even under ideal conditions, perfectly fertile individuals need time; it may take several months to get pregnant.

If you are under 35 years of age and have a regular cycle with no underlying health issues, try for at least a year before you start to panic

#9 Going to the doctor too late

If you are over 35 years old and have been trying for more than 6 months with no results, visit the doctor.

If you are younger and have a history of sexually transmitted infections, irregular periods or pelvic inflammatory disease or any fertility related issues, seek help

What about your overall health?

Some couples are so focused on their reproductive health, they neglect their overall health. Issues like smoking, weight, stress and medications can affect fertility.

Before you try to conceive evaluate what factors other than fertility may be causing your inability to conceive.




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